So, I realize that I haven’t caught you all up on what exactly has been going on. So, lets’ make this snappy!
For those who missed it:
- We wanted to start a family
- We conceived a lost a son named Liam
- My body went crazy after the miscarriage and I was diagnosed with “unexplained infertility” AKA “we don’t know what the heck is going on either, but we can pretend to help by giving you Clomid.”
- After a year and a half of waiting, I felt like God told me that we should adopt first and birth second. (Adoption was already on the table but for later in life.) My husband surprisingly was on board. (He hates change but God had been prompting him too.)
- After a lot of research, we decided to be a Foster/Adopt family in January. We went through training and home studied and completed our portion on stuff in the middle of June and waited for approval.
…and to catch you up:
- We received “Ben” on August 3rd…two weeks later we received our approval letter. (Apparently we were approved in the computer system but hadn’t been notified.)
- We are currently part of a dual case plan. Ben’s mother is currently being offered her last chance at reunification. They don’t have a lot of confidence in her, so they placed him with us so that we could adopt him quickly and he wouldn’t have to transition anymore.
- We quickly recognized that Ben needed more care than we could give him with our busy lives…so I full time ministry (almost 7 years on staff at this church) to stay at home with him. I picked up a part time afternoon job that isn’t ministry related. It was a big move but one that I felt like God was prompting me to do.
What’s actually going on with the case: Well, that’s a hard question. Ben’s mom has only shown up at ¼ meetings required and has not formally received a case plan due to her absences. They keep reaching out to her and she does not respond. Our next court date is at the end of January. I am honestly praying that her lack of cooperation leads to an early termination of parental rights (TPR). So, praying friends, please join us in prayer for a speedy TPR and adoption process. (The minimum time is 13 months but this could drag out for as long as 24 months.)
How I am feeling: This is the weirdest time in my life but I feel that I am 100% led by the Holy Spirit. This is not the story that I would have chosen write but it is His story for me. I choose to trust Him. I would NEVER have seen myself staying at home. I am a career woman, dang it! I run with the boys! However, I am having a wonderful time as a mommy to this little one. He feels like he was supposed to be with us the whole time. I am learning more and more every day what it is to live a life dependent on the Lord (many times leaning on Him for sanity when forced to watch yet another episode of Harry the Bunny!)
So, that’s what has been going on in my absence. I actually had to give back my beautiful laptop when left the church, but after some saving and shopping I am back in business and more posts will be coming soon!